Connecting with your kids can be challenging in our fast-paced world. You want your kids to feel safe and secure but also want them to grow up and explore on their own. Kids thrive when they have close relationships with those who care for them. They will build self-confidence and independence and develop social skills that will stay with them throughout their life.
Much of the information kids encounter is filtered through their connection with you as parents. If you are not careful, they can start to feel disconnected from you. This generation gap manifests itself in different ways throughout their lives.
If you recognize the signs of a generation gap and are ready to take action, here are five steps you can take today.
Set A Good Example
You set the example for your child, so it only makes sense to set a good example. When your kids see you eating, sleeping, and exercising, they start copying you. Set the best model for your kids by eating a healthy diet, following a routine, and having a disciplined exercise regime.
Setting a good example for your children is also the best approach to instilling respect and excellent manners. It doesn't have to be much since a small gesture may mean a lot. They will start to notice your positive conduct when you do it in front of them, and they may even imitate it. And by taking a few moments out of your day to help someone else, you may make a lasting impression on your kids and increase their respect and admiration for you. Be patient with your kids, even when they are just kids. Be honest, respectful, and trustworthy.
A University of Illinois study evaluation found that kids in high-conflict families, whether the parents are together or separated, often do worse than kids of parents who get along.
Talk Things Out
Kids might try to experiment with drugs and alcohol, so parents must talk things through with them. If you are concerned about your child experimenting with drugs or alcohol, talk to them about it and try to be honest. Please don’t lie to them, but don’t tell them the whole truth either. Be as open as possible and be honest with them while setting boundaries and guidelines.
Since talking and listening are crucial components of a positive parent-child connection, according to the American Psychological Association, regular communication with your children can contribute a lot to bridging the generation gap.
Find Activities That Interest You Both
There are so many activities out there to choose from, and many are free. Make a list of the activities you and your family enjoy, and start looking for those that can be done together. If your child loves sports, make sure to look for activities and competitions that are local. There are many fun and inexpensive ways to connect with your child.
If you have an interest, try searching for clubs and meet-ups nearby. You can also try connecting with other parents on social media groups related to your hobby or organizing a special event for the community.
Celebrate Accomplishments and be Supportive
While you don’t always want to celebrate your child’s failures, you should celebrate their successes. When your child does well in school, make sure to tell them and try to encourage them to keep doing well. After a good performance at a sporting event, be sure to support your child and help them celebrate their success.
It can be done in several ways, such as helping your child set up their celebration party, helping to organize the party with a few decorations or food items, helping to clean up afterward and put things away, or helping to drive home after the party.
Don’t Take Things For Granted
Even when your kids are older, you don’t want to take things for granted. Make sure to take advantage of your children when they are young, especially if they have a gift. Kids are always learning, so take notes and ask them questions throughout their lives.
Make it a habit to let your kids help with chores around the house and in the garden. It will help them develop their independence and make them feel like helping out. It’s important to let your kids feel like they are contributing when they can.
Hope this post helps you if you have been trying to improve your relationship with your child. Understand that it's essential to acknowledge that kids have their perspectives and that showing them love and patience will go a long way toward bridging the generational gap that divides parent and child.